MUSIC: My Favorite Song of the Day (That I Haven't Mentioned Already) - Feb 7, 2007 - "Boys Don't Cry" by The Cure

This from me, NOT some reprinted article. - OlderMusicGeek

This was always one of my favorite songs in college! And whenever I hear it, it takes me back to those days.

I have to admit, though, I’m not a big Cure fan and a lot of their music doesn’t do that much for me. But I love their “hits” – if I can really call them that, since they were never that big here in the States. Well, at least not outside of the new wave/punk crowd.

But this is just so fun! Kind of strange to say about a sad, break up song, but it’s true.

There’s that great jangling guitar going through the song, with that wonderful riff coming in every once and a while. And although there’s nothing fantastic about the drumming, it works for the song, keeps it going along and to quote American Bandstand dancers, it’s got a great beat to dance to. And I love a funky bass line!


And this song was rather important to me in my college days. Although it is supposed to be a break up song, and I knew it was a break up song, I still kind of reinterpreted it as an unrequited love song.

I would tell you
That I loved you
If I thought that you would stay
But I know that it's no use
That you've already
Gone away

Unfortunately, it’s pretty much only the chorus that can be reinterpreted that way. But as I never even had a girlfriend until after college – yeah, yeah, I know – it was about the only way I could relate to the song.

And it was just as well that I made into an unrequited love song. I listened to mostly on this mixed tape a friend, Will, made of the music of our other friend, Jan. And Will and I both had a big crush on Jan, but she liked both of us only as friends.

But it was a good friendship and the 3 of us saw a lot great shows together in college. And this song reminds me of those good times. How can I resist a great song to dance with wonderful great parts that reminds me of happy days?


But before I finish this piece, I should talk about the role this song played after I asked my ex for divorce. Things were rather bitter – I wanted the divorce and she didn’t. And she felt used, abused and discarded after putting so much effort in the marriage. I felt exhausted, tired and frustrated at making something that wasn’t working well work at all.

So anyway, I heard this song – and I guessed it finally let me look a little more understanding at what my ex was going through and why she was so upset. And although she wasn’t a boy, she was tough and didn’t like showing her emotions.

Misjudged your limits
Pushed you too far
Took you for granted
I thought that you needed me more

Now I would do most anything
To get you back by my side
But I just
Keep on laughing
Hiding the tears in my eyes
'cause boys don't cry
Boys don't cry
Boys don't cry


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